As I approach the dating frontier after many years of being in a relationship, I have been faced with new challenges, expectations and even an occasional demand from members of the opposite sex. I have been awed by the audacity and after watching things and talking to my sisters have found that this is the norm. I now find myself to the point of giving up, not giving in but giving up and finding a place of contentment within myself without a partner. So before I throw in the towel I thought I would just give the men some points to ponder.
As it is said we women are complex on so many levels but actually very simple at the end of the day. We may be high maintenance when you meet us. Weekly hair appointments, monthly spa dates and a shoe addiction that we need therapy for but with the right partner we will struggle and struggle happily. We will give up our hair appointments and find a friend to slap some relaxer in our hair and blow dry and style our self. Spa dates turn into a rented movie and some jerk chicken with our Boo. Instead of 10 pairs of shoes we will settle for 2 and only on clearance. Of course to get all of this out of us we need a man that is worthy of our sacrifice, our support and our strength. With that being said here are the needs according to LuuLuu of a woman.

We need to be cherished. The feeling that to you, our man, we are the most special in his eyes. That he would move a mountain for us. When we walk in a room you are proud to be with us and no woman is better than the one on your arm.

We need your support. Black women are strong enough to raise a nation but when we come home we need you there with open arms to enfold us and remind us that we are gentle. You and only you can make us a purr like a kitten. Make us forget what we face in the outside world. Remember our lives are just as important. Our dreams are just as significant.

We need your strength. We are looking for you to be the man in the house. So many of you complain that we try to wear the pants. Actually we prefer skirts and dresses but when the pants are sitting in the closet gathering dust. We finally reach in, shake them off and put them on and at that point we are angry because you are not fulfilling the promise we see in you.

We need your understanding. We are different. We cry. Our feelings can be hurt sometimes very easily. Sometimes the little things upset us. As our partner make an effort to understand what makes us tick as an individual. We only ask for the effort.

Most of all we need your love. True love not fairy tale love. We need to feel the love you have resonate from your smile when you see us to the hands that touch us. The power of your love for us will allow us the freedom to release the love that is within us. A woman in love is a powerful arsenal in your armor against the world.

This is the fundamentals, a primer. There is more to your woman than this, that is your job not mine to figure out but I promise if you handle these 5 things well. The rest will work itself out.